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Category: Travel Advice
“How Many Countries Have You Been To?” & Other Questions I Avoid
Originally published on elephant journal. Nowhere on my website will you find a tally of countries I’ve visited. Not on my Instagram either. Several times, I’ve […]
Wanderlusters: Running Away Doesn’t Work. (But Run Anyway!)
Originally published at elephant journal—7 September, 2016. This is fun. I’m going through some old writings in anticipation of a possible project or two, and […]
On Growing Wings & The Value of Figuring It Out for Yourself
I have the clearest memory of asking my father for help tying my shoes. I was sitting on the bottom step of our unfinished basement—I […]
But Still: A Short Story on the Wisdom of Trust
“Trust no one,” the wise ones said. Deep-lined faces, milk eyes clouded with all the memories of all the misfortunes of all the ages, they hummed […]
What to Do with a 10-Hour Train Ride
I’ve done that thing again. That thing where I look at plane tickets, look at train tickets, enter all available data into an elaborate equation […]
How to Go Out Alone (& Not Hate It)
It’s 2009, and I’m eighteen. Paris is home for the year. It’s a chilly night in early winter. Ten or eleven o’clock. I’ve just gotten […]
7 Hardcore Life Lessons Travel Teaches Faster
Travel is a relentless teacher. There are no bathroom breaks, no question and answer sessions, and no weeks off for study or review. We jump […]
Struggle: A Travel Manifesto
If you travel (or live), where the mother tongue is not your mother tongue, you will struggle. The mundane will become complex and challenging, and […]
Some Stuff I Liked in Portugal: A Rough and Tumble Guide
Portugal has made it onto just about every top travel list this year, and with good reason. I loved the month I spent there in […]